Are you stuck with one for the rest of your life?
Now I am not saying This Cool Guy is the coolest guy who is all popular with the good and bad stuffs he does. The “cool” I was referring to is non-expressive, unemotionally-expressive, he is just stoned-stoked-on-no-feeling-not-emotionally-attention-giving. If you are a person who loves flowers, attention-seeking, all lovey-dovey dolled up and wanting hugs and kisses all the time, well baby , you might end-up frustrated and perhaps energy drained by trying to impress him in order to gain attention. Don’t get me wrong, he noticed you fine it is just that you won’t get that love notes and the oo-ahs of surprises. So, you better stock up on more love notes and auto-send bouquet for yourself yearly for special dates on his credit (with his consent OF COURSE!). You will be needing it if you requires A-lot of praises kisses to be sane.
The best Thing ever about marrying a guy who is Cool, is because he knows you more than you know you! I totally agree with this, and I felt really grateful ever more since I realized it is not the opposite attracts us – my cool man and Me.
For years and years, I kept telling my man that, we are opposites attracts and we were meant to be together no matter what. So, we just have to stay on course no matter how different both of us are. You see, I am the chatty type and He is the quiet type. I goes ya-da-yada-yaaa-daa all the time and he goes …………….. (silent, i hear the grasshopper in the background). He is clean and I am messy and He still play COOL. BECAUSE he gets me!
With all the fights and disagreements we had over the years was probably because the way I projected that I am more expressive than he is. Then, when he got down to solutions he was brilliant always by having fair-fair deal. He wins and I will not feel that I lost because He does care about my feelings! My man is so cool.
Getting hitched with a cool guy who’s non-expressive-ness might hurt your feelings alot. He may be unresponsive towards your emotional turmoil but the cool man just needs to do what he got to do, to be COOL for you. Trust me, you get this eventually that too much of a drama queen won’t help in a lot of situations. More-so when you have kids with you, monkey see monkey do. I know kids mama’s bad. If you are married without children, you will know that you get to learn being strong and independent because your cool man secretly admires you for that.
Marriage isn’t like what’s in the movies or in novels, and it is definitely not about only an individual – only you or only your spouse. It is about both of you, both as one equally matters.
My friend, if you are like me – just chill with the coolness of his. Eventually, one day you will feel that the coolness is his actual warmth towards you with love. All that coolness actually compliments silently to your personal growth from being good to better.
One thing I know for sure, my cool man who is stuck with me for the rest of his life is getting more physical warm hugs from me.
>>squeeze hugs Honey!<<